I have a love hate relationship with Valentine’s Day. I love the idea of celebrating love with that special special someone but I hate the overpriced flowers, cheap chocolates and exuberant ‘dinner’ packages. I have a pretty awesome husband so I’m not one of those “Oh, sweetheart if you just did the dishes or did a load of laundry, I would so love THAT for Valentine’s Day…”. First of all my husband does help out a lot around the house and secondly those are not you are the most special person in my life I love you so… kind of presents.
I don’t want to feel bad about wanting to be romanced a little. It’s not like that happens every week or every month… Look… being romantic and making me feel like I’m the only gal for you is important.
It fuels the flames of love… and marriage.
It means that you are not being complacent or taking me for granted. So let me tell you want I want… what I really, really want (to quote the Spice Girls)…
It is that special day of the year. It is the day when twenty-five years ago, you took me out on our first ‘official’ real date. It was the day when two years after that, you proposed. For the longest times, we celebrated Valentine’s Day more than our anniversary. It was THAT special to us. You would bring me flowers or chocolates, you may have even bought me a piece of jewellery once. I can’t remember. I do remember asking that you not spend your money on roses that would only wilt 3 days later or making dinner reservations for meals that were to pricey and the quality was just not there.
So this year, I wanted to make a list of things that I would love to do to commemorate our first date, 25 years ago:
Take me away… I would love to go away to New York, Chicago, Philadelphia or a quickie weekend in Miami. Why not? Just three days, two nights in a great hotel. Let’s stay at the Plaza Hotel for just one night? We can pretend we are having an torrid love affair without the drama of actually doing something that stupid. We could spend hours in MoMA, The Guggenheim or The Met? You know, I’ve never met a museum that I didn’t love.
Maybe we could make a tiny purchase at a certain store that has beautiful blue boxes.
- Let’s get a spa treatment together: manicure, pedicure, facials, massage. Do you remember when we were in Colombia for my cousin’s wedding and you and my uncle got a quick manicure (just a nail trim and buff- no polish)? You loved it. Honey, you haven’t lived until you get a pedicure too! That all seems pretty fun and trust me, you will love the couples massage too!
This year will mark 400 years since Shakespeare’s death. Promise to take me to the Stratford Festival for a few days and a few plays? Maybe we can see two or three shows in one weekend: a drama, a comedy and a musical. Why not go overboard on the bard? This year there is Macbeth, Shakespeare in Love, As you Like It, The Lion, the Witch and The Wardrobe or A Chorus Line. So many choices so little time. You know I cannot resist going to a good play be it at the Stratford Festival, the Shaw Festival, Broadway our local Grand Theatre.
- Write me a love letter. We are not spring chickens anymore but a girl can never get enough of sweet words of love. Get a picture of the two of us, frame it and include a love letter. There is nothing like putting you on the spot to inspire great prose but I’m sure if you had a few cocktails the creative inspirational words of love would flow… or I certainly hope so.
- Buy a bottle of Champagne, a fine cheese, a few grapes and a baguette and lets have a picnic in our bedroom. I’d say outside in a park but that seems a little cold this time of year. ? That is all I’m going to elaborate on.?
- You can never go wrong with a bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates and a nice meal…
Happy Valentine’s Day my love.
Your loving wife,